Quote - Success.com

Reinventing the body | Deepak Chopra | TEDxTimesSquare

Affirmation - Louise Hay

Motivational quote - Dr John Demartini

My Secret Weapon To Staying Positive And Motivated

 Have you ever had trouble staying positive and motivated?

Who hasn't? Right?

Well, the last couple weeks I've found staying positive and motivated tougher than usual. I'm sure you've been there.

Doing the simple daily tasks I usually do effortlessly have been tough. My productivity has been terrible, and I find myself heading to the local corner store to get a couple Crispy Crunch bars and watching video games online far more than exercising or working on my business.

So I had a little chat with myself to see what the problem was. What am I doing? Why do I feel so damn unmotivated the last couple weeks? What's been different? What's changed?

You might not believe this - but I traced it back to the moment my MP3 player broke!

Yup. My MP3 player was the root of the problem. Well, the fact that it was broken.

My MP3 player had become a major part of my daily routine. I don't listen to music all that often. But what I do listen to are tapes ( or should I say my audio files) of my favorite speakers.

Jim Rome, John Maxwell, Anthony Robbins, Robert Anthony, Jeffrey Coombs, Jeff Olsen, Steve Chandler. 1-2 hours a day - whenever I'm exercising, driving, writing, working - I'd be listening to positive, motivating talks on everything from Leadership, prospecting, to tips on growing my business.

I had NO IDEA this habit I'd developed, listening to these talks for hours every day while going about my usual business, had on my life...

...Until it stopped.

Of course I went out that evening and bought another MP3 player.

The lesson here is my MP3 player, or more accurately, the talks I listen to EVERY DAY on that MP3 player had a significant, measurable, positive effect on my staying positive and motivated - and i didn't even know it.

My MP3 player is, no joke, my Secret Weapon to Staying Positive and Motivated.

We are bombarded with 10 - 20 times more negative influences on a daily basis than positive ones. (Just watch the news for evidence of this) Most people have no idea the effect this has on them.

Studies have shown we earn incomes equal to the average of our five closest friends and influences. What if you spend time every day with a Tony Robbins, or a Jeffrey Combs, or a John Maxwell, or whoever you prefer? What would that do for your income?

Instead of listening to the radio while you go to work, what if you had Tony Robbins pumping you up for that half-hour to and from work every day? Would that repeated influence help you stay positive and motivated?

OF COURSE IT WOULD!

So, if you don't have an MP3 player, your next purchase is going to be one. You don't need to pay $200 for the latest IPod. I paid $50 for mine and it works great.

You don't need to know any technical mumbo jumbo either. MP3 players come with a cord that connects directly into your USB port on your computer and you just copy and paste right onto your MP3 player.

If you don't have any recordings of Rome/Robbins/Combs/Ziglar or whomever you prefer listening to, go to amazon or your local book store and buy some - but get the audio. Books are great and I read plenty but audio can be listened to hands free while you do other stuff. Most of these audio books cost about $20 or you can buy them used for even less.

The key is repeated daily listening. You have to listen to a recording 14 times to get the full benefit. Don't listen to them once and think you're going to get any benefit. It needs to become a daily habit. Start doing it with certain activities like driving or exercising or cooking dinner - and after a while it becomes routine.

Pretty soon you'll have a set of 3-4 audios that you love and listening to repeatedly and will keep you staying positive daily. In time your MP3 player will become more important than your Blackberry or I-Phone.

If your audios are on CD, transferring them to your MP3 player is easy.
Place your CD into the CD drive on your computer
Right click the start menu icon on your computers desktop and select explore
Open your "Computer" this will bring up your computers drives
From there you can select your CD-ROM drive and open the contents of the CD
Copy the audio files to a folder on your computer
They may be in a format that you can use on your MP3 player, if not, no problem.
There are lots of free software that converts video formats - I use "Any Video Converter" just Google it
Convert your audio files, place them on your MP3 Player and your GTG!

The consistent listening to these audios will have significant impact on your life in a short time, after a few weeks. In time it'll become your secret Weapon to staying positive and motivated just like it is for me.


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Jim Rohn: Habits That Will Change Your Life (Morning Motivation)

Life Reset Formula - Proven, Powerful and Yours!

Building the Bridge to Your Reset: Do you ever get the feeling you're hurtling through life and it's dragging you along a bumpy road? I've heard it said that the concrete mixer is coming whether or not you tell it how you want the concrete poured. Would you rather design your front set than have concrete setting all over your front lawn or vegetable garden. Tomorrow will come, whether you're clear on your direction or not.

Monday Morning. 5.15 am and stepping it out filled with even more gratitude than usual. Seven years ago in the clutches of a damp New Zealand winter I set the unequivocal intention to live on the Sunshine Coast, Australia doing work that fulfilled me and made a difference; with loving partner, a laughing, healthy child, living in a beautiful house with a salt water swimming pool. I recall how low and fearful I was. I got clear on what I wanted. I remember putting my heart's true desire out there. Then the relief of surrender. All of that has happened. And so much more. At the time I had no idea how it would come about. How it could come about. Now I know:

If it's time for you to step into changes, find or tweak your vision and reset the course of your life by your design, here are the five key components to consider.

1. Identify (Finding Clarity)
Give yourself space and time to get certain about what you want. Sometimes all you need to get sure about is your next step, like authorship is for me. I got really clear that where I need to place my passion and focus for the next few months is on writing. This does fit into a larger vision some how, and there's lots of space for opportunities to flow in. A sticking point can sometimes be that people make finding clarity more complicated than it needs to be. You don't have to "know it all" or construct the minute detail of the rest of your life. Identify key pieces, and the gaps will fill in in the flow. (As long as you're taking aligned action).

2. Refine.
Enhance the elements you love and are committed to. Ask yourself how having these will impact the rest of your life. Let yourself stretch and expand your vision. Dream BIG! Part of your refinement process is to call in your senses as you construct the reality you'll be living into. What do you see as you have this piece in your life? What are you hearing? What are you telling yourself? Where are you feeling that new element in your body? How do you choose to feel when you have it?

For example: I breathe into the excitement in my stomach and heart as I hearing my fingers tapping away at my keyboard. As words pour out of me and fill the sleek apple 27 inch screen I tell myself how fantastic it is to be creatively sharing practical messages of inspiration and hope. It's June 2012 and I see the cover of my published book laying on my desk beside me - I smile as I write the next one. I'm preparing for both the New York and Frankfurt Book fairs, my tickets are booked. My NLP Trainings and Seminars are rocking with my new content which supports my students and readers to rapidly free themselves from blocks and limiting beliefs.

3. Design
Take creative responsibility and time to craft your desired outcome. Shape your your intention with the energy of the actions within your influence to make it happen. This includes being clear about the aspects you don't know yet. Language your uncertainty. "I'm not really sure how I'm going to move to Honolulu, yet. Bring on the opportunities, connections and associations that support this intention." The drawing out of your dream aspect could include definite timetabled accountabilities to move you toward your endgame. Once I decided on a publishing date, I allocated time - which is not-negotiable, to writing. This meant a re-shuffle of my work week to suit my new priorities.

4. Clear.
Calling in a life reset often means facing the boundary conditions and limiting beliefs that have held you where you are. I'm out there about being intentional regarding shifting unhelpful beliefs. My all time favourite ways of releasing limiting beliefs include NLP, EFT (Tapping), Hypnosis, Affirmations, Visualisations. Once you've recognised the belief, seek it's origins and gain a wider understanding of how come you took it on. Consider whether or not it supports you in achieving your goals. If not, let it go.

5. Set Your Aim, Action and Claim!
Back yourself by committing to do what it takes to have what you want. Build the bridge to your outcome by beginning with small, doable steps.

Life Reset:
Identify It + Refine It + Design it = Claim It!


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Quote - Dr John Demartini

Affirmation - Louise Hay

Are You a Queen or Still a Princess?

As a child, I never had the desire to be a princess or a Queen until recently. I didn’t value the very essence of what a Queen really meant. I was stuck in princess mode until everything changed.

I was battling separating from my husband who I’d known for 18 years, broke, tired, confused, losing my home and no source of income….it was becoming overwhelming and I just wanted a change. I wanted to press the reset button. I had to lose everything to gain everything. Finally, in my princess mentality, I was willing to go through whatever I had to go through to get to my Queen-ish.
Just because you age in years doesn’t mean you mature.

Learning to be the Queen I am today, there was much work to be done. I had to let go of the victim mentality I was carrying for so long. I constantly stayed on alert for when the "princess behaviors" came into play and attempted to hold me back.

Previously, as a princess, I battled with not letting things go, arguing, complaining, whining and caring about what people thought of me. Now, I work daily to staying at the Queenish level and check myself whenever I feel like I am going back to princesshood. If I go back there, I know I will create so much drama and chaos in my life that simply isn’t worth it. I’m not going back.
So, I take off the crown and return to the throne, over and over again.

Which one are you ~ Queen or Princess?

Check out how to know the difference.

Princess Mindsets

Rescue me. The damsel in distress wants Prince Charming to come along and sweep her off her feet. She wants to be rescued — from her finances, health, career, the world and from herself when the job should be hers. Lacks Understanding & Gratitude. Princesses can appear spoiled, because she tends to focus on what she doesn’t have versus all that she’s been given.

Tell me who I am and I’ll believe you. Nothing makes a Princess smile more than others telling her how amazing she is or defining who she is. She needs her partner to tell her that she’s beautiful, her friends to put her on a pedestal and her co-workers to celebrate her every move. She gets giddy from external validation; her world turns dark without it. There’s no thought on her own of who she truly is. She allows others to define that for her.

It’s all about me. She’s not concerned with how others feel. With his princess, the world revolves around her.

Give me permission. The Princess needs permission before she does what she does. And, if she doesn’t get it, she usually just sits around blaming others and feeling ashamed.

There is Never Enough. This Princess lives with a fear of her well running dry. She sees life through competition and comparison. Is she prettier than me? Is she smarter than me? More successful than me? Better than me? This is how she ranks herself among her competitors. We know comparison is the thief of all joy.

I don’t want to look bad. Because the Princess loves to be adored, she will avoid looking bad at all costs. Image is everything. She doesn’t even care if she can’t afford the lifestyle she is portraying. This will hold her back on so many levels. She won’t take risks… too afraid of looking bad. She avoids any situation that could expand her growth.

Queen Mindset

I AM the Creator of my Life/Reality.
A Queens presence proclaims that she is in charge of her life, and that her main role is to master herself and create a kingdom that she loves.

How may I serve you? The Queen understands that a life built on service and offering value is the key to a well-lived life. And, because she doesn’t live in lack, she is filled with abundance. She wants to see everyone thrive and uplevel themselves. She doesn’t mind helping them along the way.
I don’t need your permission. A Queen doesn’t ask others if it’s okay. She doesn’t wait for them to say go. She grants herself the permission to do what she wishes when she wishes to.

I AM who I AM. Unlike the Princess, who’s always looking outside of herself, the Queen looks within and knows who she is and what she values/honors. These are the building blocks to her present and future.

Knows That Time Is Precious. A Queen manages her time wisely. And, while she loves others, she knows she needs her own space and cannot be everything to everyone, every moment. She takes the time to care for herself before she can care for anyone else.

Grace & Elegance. A Queen knows that true grace starts from within herself. Elegance has nothing to do with her wardrobe or looks; it’s about how she feels inside. She shines like the light she is and when others see her, they notice the magnificence within her. It is so rare today and people don’t take it lightly when they notice it. And, that experience radiates as powerful, happy and humble.

I AM blessed and I AM a creator. The Queen adores her life and all that she has, but she also loves creating. She has desires, and she’s not ashamed of them. Her goals are huge and they seem to scare others and that is how she knows she is moving in the right direction. She doesn’t desire more to fill a hole; she desires more because she knows she’s powerful enough to create it.

Failure is part of the process. A Queen knows that creating a fulfilling life requires taking risks and failure. However, because she doesn’t let that fear stop her, she reaps beautiful rewards. Plus, she doesn’t see it as a failure just merely a lesson learned, and a Queen never stops doing. She is fearless.
You don’t have to like me. When you stand for something, not everyone will agree. And, that’s okay if you’re a Queen. She still will move with respect and honor in the kingdom.

Her Cup Runneth Over. A Queen is constantly dropping jewels a.k.a planting seeds wherever she goes. If she sees a need, she fills it. If she sees a problem, she solves it. She doesn’t make excuses and just does what has to be done. In return, she is blessed with more than enough for herself and generations to come.

Which one are you? As I mentioned to you, I was all in the princess mindset but I had to get sick and tired of being sick and tired to stay there. I knew there was more than what I was experiencing.
The question now becomes: which mindset is leading your life?

Give that inner princess a hug, tell her Bye Felicia and let her know that she’s got to go. It’s time to get Queenish.

Remember, a Queen commits to more love and less fear in her life. The results? Life loves her back, abundantly.

Are you ready to unleash your inner Queen?



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The Magic of Meditation | Jack Canfield

How Your Life Can Be A Dream

Most everyone, at some point in their life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Of all these big dreams and personal goals, too many times these dreams just remain as dreams. For all our desire to aspire, they simply gather mental dust over the ages. Even though from time to time we dust them off to longingly look at them.

Just in recognizing their presence could become another sad reminder in our lives. By reviewing the glorious hopes, we can find that far from living this life of excitment, we are only stuck in the daily grind of our routine jobs. Often, just barely existing under the debt and threat of job loss.

Did you ever think that life could actually be much better if only we learned to convert these dreams to responsible action?

Of course, the first stumbling block to achieving any goal is to believe in that lie called "Impossible." There are a lot of phrases like that: "I can't do this." or "It's too hard." "It's too unrealistic." "No one can do this."

Of course, if everyone thought that way, there would probably never have been any inventions, discoveries, or breakthroughs which make up the list of human accomplishments.

Now you may recall the story of baffled scientists to tried to apply the laws of aerodynamics to the simple bumblebee. They all agreed that in theory it was impossible for the lowly bee to fly at all. However, no one ever got around to telling the bee that - so it continues to fly through its life with no difficulties at all.

One key self-imposed limit is to have these grand dreams and then to take no action on them. The outcome is often that there are only dull, humdrum lives - with broken dreams and the only action is on TV sets.

To the degree you limit yourself with doubt and assumptions of pre-ordained failure, you may never be able to have any breakthrough past what you now consider to be impossible. Sky high dreams can only fail when you take no action toward any goal you've set.

Try this exercise: Take a sheet of paper and write down the main goals you wouldn't mind achieving. Make three headers -Things you know you can do; Things you might be able to do; and Things which are impossible to do.

Now work out the steps you can see right now that would help you achieve that goal. Put them under each header according to how hard you think they are to attain or achieve.

Now every day, review that goal statement and see that dream in your mind again. Then, look over that list under "Things you know you can do" and get some of those done that day. And look over "Things you might be able to do" and see if you can get some of those done somehow.

As you start getting more and more things done in the first column, you can work on getting more things done in the second column, as these will probably become more possible to do. As you get better at getting things done, you can look over that third column of "Things that are impossible to do" and see if you now start seeing how some of those might be able to get done.

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

The point here is to not limit your imagination. Regardless of how high you aim, if you start working toward that goal with little steps, you can achieve it. It's been said to be unwise to set a goal which is unrealistic. However, in most cases, you can break down that star-high goals into smaller steps which are more doable right now. As you get these completely, you will see that the "might be able to do" steps can be accomplished by similarly breaking them down. And you'll probably see that nothing is particularly impossible when you apply this strategy to them.

Those who only dream towards a goal and never work at doing the smaller steps only end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But through sheer desire and perseverance, and building on all the little and doable steps in between, these impossible dreams are now realities.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. Plan your work and work your plan. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

Because your life could be a dream - if you really you want it to be.


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Be thankful for difficult people

Learn the Secretes to Reaching Your Goals in Life

"My goal is always to inspire my readers to want – no, demand – more out of life. After reading this article, you’ll feel encouraged, inspired, and focused. I want you to be empowered to change the world in which you live – empowered to change you!"

It has been my personal experience that the surest way to stay on track and not give up or lose focus along your journey to reaching your goals in your life is to take small action after small action. I know that this may sound simple, but it’s the key reason that so many never reach their goals or live their dreams. An Olympic 400 meter runner was once asked, "How do you prepare yourself mentally for a race." She responded by saying, "Every time I get in my starter blocks, I tell myself that I’m going to run the first 100 meters of this race the best that I know how. After that, I’ll decide if I want to run the last 300 meters or not."

What are the odds that she’ll stop after running the first 100 meters? Of course she’ll finish the race, but the real challenge lies in starting the race. Today, your biggest challenge is simply starting. Then once you’ve started, you will follow these steps:

First, take your time. Don’t get in a rush. Q: Do you know how to eat an elephant burger?
A: You eat it one bite at a time. Q: Do you know how you will see success in your life? A: One accomplishment at a time.

Second, stay focused on the small picture. Don’t get discouraged because the big picture isn’t as complete as you had hoped it would have been by now. In your life, success will come after a series of small action steps. Don’t expect to succeed in one giant leap. Expect to take small step after small step until you’re finally there.

Third, celebrate small accomplishments. Each morning or once a week, you should sit down and determine what small actions you will take that day or that week in the direction of your goals and dreams. After you’ve accomplished them, celebrate that accomplishment and then move on to the next action that you will take.

Fourth, be consistent. The key is to take action every single day toward your goals. The greatest key in reaching your goals and dreams in life is consistency. It doesn’t matter how small the action is. What’s most important is that you’re consistently taking daily actions.

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Change Your Mindset and Achieve Anything | Colin O'Brady | TEDxPortland

Affirmation - Louis Hay

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Self Growth Is About Believing That You Can

Did you know that the majority of humans do not live up to their potential thus fail to achieve self growth? The main reason is because they really do not consider what they can do, or they do not actually believe that they can achieve more than they have already achieved. Most of them simply do not care. It is surprisingly a small minority of people take effort to go the extra mile and make a mark in their lives. For you to achieve self growth you must push yourself to the maximum.

Even though a big percentage of people live in sheer mediocrity and ignorance, this does not mean success is impossible. It just goes to show that to make it big in life should not be taken lightly. It is very possible for you to stand out in your area of operation but that is if only you take the right approach. This means that you have to start living and thinking like a champion.

Let the way you think, talk and behave reflect your belief that you are a winner thus achieve self growth. You must obviously be aware of the fact that you can never be what others think of you unless you allow them to make you.

It is true what they say; "where there is no enemy within, the enemy without cannot harm". You should have strong beliefs and have a very high self esteem and self respect, because self growth and success belongs only to the strong willed. Those who are weak, passive, preservative and those who generally tend to conform to what happens outside have no chance of survival, so the adage, "Survival for the fittest".

Therefore, you need to start having a strong character and will in order to make the serious decisions that you have to take. To be a hero and attain perfect self growth you need not to be afraid of taking hard stands. Life is about making choices and that takes a strong character.

They say a man's got to do what a man has got to do. Your hard work and dedication makes you who you are.

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12 Habits of Millionaires - Money Making Habits and Mindset of the Wealthy

Dr John Demartini - Motivational quote

The Power Of The Mind-"Use It to Get Everything You Ever Dreamed Of"

There is only one way to succeed and that is by using the Power Of The Mind. Start using this power to get what you want whether it is health, happiness, relationships, ect. This is the doorway to everything you have ever desired.

Everything in the universe is made of energy. Whatever you think is sent out from your body into the universe. This is what's called "thought energy" and it has the ability to create your reality. So in other words What you Think about You bring About. This is The Law Of Attraction.

Now take this knowledge and start thinking about attracting whatever you want.

How do you apply this to your life to create everything you desire?

1. Believe and accept that this is real power and it will work for you.

2. Focus only on positive things. Stay away from everything negative! Eliminate them- Make 2 lists, one with the things you like about your current situation and the other about what you would like to change. Now go and take those dislikes and turn them around, to make yourself truly believe that you can accomplish them. Get rid of all disbeliefs. Physically write them out. Now you have your beliefs, so start focusing on them and let them guide your life. You do have the ability to create anything you desire.

3. Know exactly what it is that you want and be very specific here. Do NOT limit yourself, Think BIG if it's something you truly want. Go ahead and write down the details of all that you desire. Now go back and look over what you have just written down. Sit in a quiet place and really focus on them. Don't worry about how you are going to get these things, just be clear about what you want. Next prioritize them by putting # 1, #2 and so forth depending on what want right now. This is now the order that you will create them.

4. Take the list that you just made and turn each into a positive statement, stating a though you have already achieved what you desire. Now draw an image for each, be as creative as you can with these. Be specific, color, size, what do your really want? Create a bulletin board, find some pictures and paste them all on there along with your positive statements. Actually put that board up and make sure you look at it each and everyday morning, noon and night. Put your heart and soul into this project, truly believe and have faith that this has already been done. They are now yours, You have created them.

5. Do Not Doubt that you will receive the things you want most. You must expect to receive them. Have the faith that you deserve everything that you desire. Focus only on those things you desire.

Become conscious about what you are thinking about, this is called positive thinking, and with conscious thoughts anything is possible. You now will create your own reality through the conscious use of your thoughts. Whatever you keep your attention is what you will create in your physical world using the Power of your mind. You are already using it, so why not use it to get what you want. This will work, it is the Universal Law.

You know have the tools to control your destiny. Spend as much time as you can focusing on your desires. Repetition is the KEY!

Very Important! Be Thankful and Grateful for everything in advance for those things you desire.
To Your Success!


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Removing Negative Self Talk | Abria Joseph | TEDxYouth@NIST

Affirmation - Louise Hay

Abraham Hicks- General Wellbeing Meditation

Living Your Life In Forward Motion!

If you were to rate yourself on how happy and fulfilling your life is right now on a scale of 1-10, with "1" being not at all and "10" being fantastic, where would you rate yourself?
It’s an interesting question, because, if you’re like most people, you use generalized terms to describe your life, like, "It’s OK", "It’s fair", "I could be happier" and the like. Now, just for a moment, imagine your life being so happy that you walk around with a big smile on your face and everyone wonders what you’re up to! See the bright colors, hear the beautiful sounds, feel the relaxation in your body, taste and smell the fragrances around you. Expand upon the sights, sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells for as long as you wish. What happened to any stress you may have been feeling? What did you notice about the thoughts going through your mind? How did your posture react to the picture of total happiness?

Unfortunately, we don’t live a world of total happiness. We all have many stressors that come at us from a multitude of directions each and every day. But, unlike what you may think right now, you can experience a higher degree of happiness, joy, and fulfillment, even in an imperfect world!

Before I show you how easy it is to increase the happiness you have in your life, let’s discuss one of the things in the way of having it.

Fears

You would think that, with all the fears and phobias that people have, that they come about inherently, that we are meant to have them. What differentiates a fear and a phobia? Let’s say the subject is heights. A person may go to the top of a ladder to do some work on the house, the ladder slips a little and fear now sets in. This is a good thing as it serves as a self-protection mechanism. With a phobia, the person could be standing firmly on the ground and then something triggers thoughts of heights and they may break out in a sweat or become frozen in place. Nothing has really just happened, but they have become physically and/or psychologically impaired by it. Just think about your own fears and phobias. You may have a fear of spiders, snakes, dogs, or horses. It may be that you’re afraid of heights, tight spaces, elevators, or meeting new people. Then, there’s the dreaded needle. Think of the last time you got a shot at the doctor’s office. What was worse, the anticipation, or the shot itself? Some of you probably cringed as I mentioned those few items. The truth is we are born with just two fears; fear of loud noises and fear of falling. Those are inborn protection mechanisms we received from our ancestors.

Fear is usually learned in a fraction of a second. Think about a fear you have that impacts your life regularly. Think about the first time you can remember having that fear, the time when you came to own it. If it was fear of heights, think about what made you own that fear. If it was fear of snakes, what happened that made you own that fear? The larger the emotional impact, the deeper and more intense the fear.

Is it possible to get rid of these fears, or, at least minimize their effects? YES! There are several ways to approach this, but I’ll share just one technique with you today.

First, create a "safe" anchor. Here's how: Think of a time when you felt very safe and protected. Imagine it clearly and in detail. When you are at the height of feeling safe, touch your right knee, say out lout "Safe!" and anchor the feeling there.

Holding the "safe" anchor through this entire exercise, imagine yourself in a movie theater and you’re sitting close to the front of the theater and you’re watching a movie about your fear. Position it so the screen is small and just above eye level. You are now watching yourself watch the movie. Then, (Step 1) imagine moving yourself up out of the seat and into the projection booth with a Plexiglas shield around the booth and you have full control of the movie and the ability to stop it at any time. From the projection booth, you’re watching yourself; watching yourself, watch the movie. This is called double dissociation from the fear. (Step 2) Watching from one frame just before the event occurred that caused the fear, run the movie forward in black-and-white through the traumatic event and ending after the event and as the movie fades into white.
Now, (Step 3) float yourself from the projection booth down into the seat in the theater and play the movie backward, but in color and quickly, and this time, on whatever the thing is that you fear, put a clown nose on it and a funny voice, like Daffy Duck’s, along with circus music and run it very quickly. Repeat steps 1-3 three to five times, each time quicker than the one before.

Notice how you feel now about the thing you feared. You’ll see that you actually start to laugh at the thing you once feared. If the fear isn’t minimized to the point you would like, you can repeat this as often as needed until you get it to that point.

You can enjoy life NOW!

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Quote - Dr John Demartini

How to Develop a Millionaire Mindset | Jack Canfield

Finding Your Passion

A really good friend of mine is always saying "when you love what you do, you never have to work a day in your life". It’s a mantra and quote that has stuck with me for many years now and words of wisdom I live by and have imparted to my kids and clients alike. The way I see it is you have at least two choices. You find your bliss or passion in a career or hobby and you go for it or you find a way to be passionate about your current career.

Here are some strategies to help you find your passion:

1. Satisfaction Check – Look at each area of your life and determine your level of satisfaction with each area. You should consider your career, finances, health and wellness, relationship with your significant other, family and friends, personal growth and development, physical surroundings, fun and recreation and anything else that is important to you. I like to rate each area on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the highest level of satisfaction (your bliss) and 1 being a low or no level of satisfaction. Then I suggest taking a good hard look at each area to analyze the gap. Determine what would have to happen or change for the gap to be reduced or eliminated. For example: If you rated your career a 7 out of 10. What would make your satisfaction level with your career a 10? Perhaps more clients, less travel time to work, a better relationship with your boss, etc. Once you’ve identified all the items that could make a difference in your level of satisfaction you need to commit to action. Taking even one action will move you one step closer to a higher level of satisfaction in that area of your life.

2. Values Check - Know what’s important to you. Being really clear about your values and what’s most important to you helps you make better decisions more often. Make a list of what’s most important to you in your life right now. Then rank everything on the list from highest priority to lowest priority. Take a really close look at your top 5 values. These are your most important values. How closely aligned are these top 5 values to how you spend your time day to day? What have you been neglecting that’s really important to you? Many successful people put as much time and thought into what they do in their time away from the office as they do in the office. Can you make connections between what you do for a living and what’s important to you? For example: perhaps you have an expensive hobby you are passionate about i.e. race car driving or flying planes. You are in a high paying career that you perhaps don’t love but it provides you with the time and money to race cars or fly planes. Find ways to love your work or at least be grateful for your career as it is providing you with the means to follow your passion of racing cars or flying planes-there is a connection to your values, there is a sense of purpose.

3. Competencies Check – Before leaving my corporate career of 26 years to start my own business, I did some planning and strategizing to determine the type of business I wanted to be in. In the business world it is common to conduct a SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats). Applying this same management tool can be very effective when applied personally. Start with an assessment of your personal strengths and weaknesses. What are you really good at? What aren’t you so good at? Engage others to provide you with feedback in these areas as well. You may be surprised by hidden talents you have taken for granted or haven’t been using. Consider opportunities available to you today to utilize and optimize your strengths. For example: There are careers and businesses in existence today that weren’t around 26 years ago when I first started my professional career. The world is constantly changing and evolving and so are the opportunities. Look for the opportunities or create some new ones. As for threats, it’s important to recognize that they do exist and to plan to minimize or mitigate any risks.

4. Mindset Check – Lastly, it’s important to recognize that no one or one thing can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy!

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Affirmation - Louise Hay

Building Self Confidence – A Skill You Can Train

Importance of Confidence

This article talks about the importance of confidence and how it heavily influences everything you do. I outline the fundamentals to build confidence.

Confidence is a skill. A skill you can train and learn. You probably heard about the phrase „Fake it till you make it". It is often said but not explained why it’s true.

Confidence is a skill like any other learned trait. You can’t expect to just be confident exactly like you can’t expect to speak french fluently without putting time into learning it. So why is that. Lack of confidence is the result of not having the experience of various situations in life. If I say to you, prepare a presentation and present it in front of 200 people. Most of you will be hesitant and be afraid of the task. That is because so many different unexpected situations can occur in which you mind find yourself lost. Repeating the tasks will lead to you facing every situation possible which will be hard at times and you will often fail but learn so much in the process. There is unfortunately no way around the failing part. But what you can do is minimizing the fail potential. So what can you do?

Confidence Building

Again, think about confidence as a learned skill. What if you have an important exam coming up? You learn for it. The more you learn the more you feel better about the exam and about your confidence concerning the task. So do what you can regarding preparation. Sometimes you can’t prepare and need to improvise. That’s where faking the confidence comes into play.

"Fake it till you make it"

The perception of others of you as a person is always vastly different to your own view of you. Walking straight, eye contact, loud and clear talking makes you look confident. Even if you don’t feel like you are confident, others will think you are. You will notice the different looks people give you and that will boost your confidence. So just get the ball rolling, the confidence will come.

Building self-confidence is a step-by-step progress. I might get a little mathematical here, but it helps getting my point across. You have the following situation. You are new in a city and want to set up your social life but are afraid or not confident enough to approach strangers. There are 2 possibilities.

Talking to a stranger and maybe become friends. There is of course a possibility of failing because he or she might react negatively about your approach. Let’s say there is at least a 50% chance that the encounter will yield positive results and the other half of the time, the stranger won’t react nicely.

The other possibility is simply not approaching. The expected outcome here is 0% progress.

"Failure is the key to confidence."

The first option results in a better outcome since 50% of the time you will have a positive encounter. The question is now if the 50% negative encounters makes you choose the second option of not talking to strangers. Are the negative encounters really negative in the long run? No. Each conversation or approach you learn more and more things. What’s the best approach to a stranger, what questions to ask and so on. If they don’t react nicely, you have valuable information and feedback about your approach.

This is very important in every kind of encounter. You choose how failing affects you. The stranger won’t think about what happened for longer than a minute. Why would you? You have to fail to succeed. If you don’t take initiative you can not win. Even negative results have a positive side. You gain experience and can improve your approach. Take the best out of failure and see it as a positive experience in the long run.

Everything regarding confidence can be viewed with these guidelines. Speaking in public, what will happen if you fail? Will it really affect your life more negatively than not speaking in public at all? It’s all about your own perception. People just do not care if someone makes a mistake in a presentation or if you talk to them. Your audience is there to learn, not to make fun of you. If there are people laughing about something you do, those are the people with opinions you shouldn’t care about at all. In the end the human mind always exaggerates such encounters and makes you over analyze the situation.

The start is definitely the hardest part of all. Only asking someone for the way is a huge deal for some people, but after they’ve done it they are incredibly happy. It’s exactly the same with asking someone out for a date. Ask them with fake confidence, you will be surprised how often they will see your confidence and act upon it. If they say no, who cares? As I’ve said, they won’t think about it for more than a minute, why would you.

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