Learning to Say No

What can't you say no to? Some people cannot say no to chocolate whilst others cannot say no even when another person asks them to do something which is over and above the normal call of duty. These are two very different types of situations.

The first is an example of a situation where one wants something for themselves, and simply cannot stop themselves even though they believe that it might not be good for them. The latter is a situation whereby the desire to please another overrides one's sense of what is right or fair to oneself. Although these examples are very different, in both cases the inability to say no has the potential to be more than a little self-destructive.

When you know that you should say no but you cannot seem to do so there is a clear conflict between your logical mind and your emotional reaction. You are giving in to your emotional side in saying yes instead of no. You should say no to that chocolate but you want it. You should say no to that request but you want to please or you are afraid that you will displease.

To enable yourself to say no you have to learn how to align your emotions with your logical and intellectual mind. Thus one has to ask the question of why you want that chocolate or why you want to please. The answer which comes to you may not be absolutely complete in which case you will need to keep asking yourself "why...?"

A further step in learning to say no is to seek out alternate ways in which you might think which would help to align your emotions with your logical mind. For instance, in the case of overcoming chocolate cravings you could ask yourself to imagine how good you would feel in yourself by saying no, or how fantastic you will feel when you fit into your favorite jeans. In this way you begin to feel a nice proud sensation associated with saying no to chocolate, instead of a bereft feeling of loss and deprivation.

Imagine too how much more self respect you will feel the next time you say no to someone who asks you to do something which is unreasonable. In your mind’s eye see yourself saying "no, I'm sorry, I won't do that" in a calm and firm voice; and notice how everyone treats you with more respect as a result of your response. Again, it's easy to begin to associate positive and powerful emotions with saying "no" instead or those old feelings of fear. By choosing to think in this way you can easily align your emotions with your logical mind and overcome old conflicts so that you can say no quite easily.

And so you can see that there is more than one step involved in learning to say no; but this task can be made a whole lot easier with the help of hypnosis. With hypnosis you have easy access to your subconscious mind and you can quickly embed new thought processes there which will elicit powerful and positive emotions and behavior. You can learn to be a lot more confident and to say no more easily with the help of hypnosis.

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4 Tips to Improve Leadership Skills | Brian Tracy

Finding Your Self Worth

Do you measure your personal self worth based on what others think of you? Do you work really hard to make others like or approve of you? Do you find it hard to say no to people believing that others’ priorities are more important than your own? Do you lack confidence? If you answered yes to most of these questions you may have a low opinion of yourself or perhaps you just don’t consider yourself worthy. Enhancing self image will help build your confidence and your personal self worth.

5 ways to enhance your personal self worth:

1. Pay Attention to Your Posture and Your Body Language – How you hold your physical body has an impact on how others see you and on how you personally feel. Similarly, how you feel often determines your body language and your outward behavior. The two go hand in hand – body language impacting feelings and feelings impacting body language. A simple solution is to check your body language and especially your posture. Stand tall with your head held high, shoulders squared, back straight and legs solid and perfectly aligned; you will feel more in control and more self-assured. Remember the phrase "chin up"? When you hold your chin up it is much easier to stay in a positive, more optimistic mood. Make sure you are outwardly projecting a strong physical presence. Over time what you feel inwardly will begin to match your outward posture and body language.

2. Filter Your Self Talk – What is the story you are telling yourself in your thoughts or out loud in the words you choose? Are you beating yourself up with your own language? Our unconscious mind is just like a robot and takes everything we say literally and personally. Filter your thoughts and filter your words. Catch yourself when you start to spiral into negative thinking or negative language. Wear an elastic band on one of your wrists and snap it as soon as you think or say something that is negative. It will interrupt your negative thinking/speech pattern. When you catch yourself reword the negative thought or message into a positive thought or message. Here’s what that might sound like: "I’m an idiot I can’t believe I just did that", "stop/delete", "I could have done a better job on that project. I will use the feedback to do better next time around." No one is perfect. Recognize that there is no failure only feedback. Learn from your mistakes and then move on.

3. Develop Your Own Measuring Stick – Know what’s important to you and take time to honor what you value most. Don’t let others influence your view of success and/or happiness. Take time out to recognize your accomplishments no matter how big or small. Keep track of your accomplishments and proud moments in a journal. If you maintain a personal journal or even a work journal, start writing in the journal from back to front keeping track of all the little and big things that happen every day that validate your successes and accomplishments. It could be as simple as "I contributed a valid point in a business meeting today" or "Two people gave me positive feedback on that sales proposal I developed". The more you fill up your proud moments pages the more you have to feel good about when you reread what you wrote. You will also begin to develop some supporting documentation for your strengths and accomplishments.

4. Know Your Worth – Here’s a simple exercise you can do to gain a richer perspective on how you are perceived by others. Start by taking a close look at yourself and create an inventory of your unique characteristics and strengths. Who are you? What sets you apart from others? What attributes do you have that you might have taken for granted or not previously recognized? Include your personality traits, passions, experiences or areas of expertise. Then enlist the assistance of others to help you understand how you are perceived by others. Ask friends, colleagues, clients, suppliers, family to share with you what they see as your core characteristics. Ask as many people as you can within the next couple of weeks to describe you in four to six words. Once you get all the feedback, look for patterns. Choose six to eight of these essence words or phrases that really represent who you are. Notice any differences or similarities between your list and the list others came up with. What you learn about how the world sees you can be very empowering.

5. Create a Vision for the Future – Develop a vision board. Focus on what you want: your goals, aspirations and your dreams. Clip images, pictures and words of what you wish to create for yourself and pin or paste them to a corkboard. Then take a step towards something you really want by taking some action, no matter how small a step it is.
You are much more than you think you are. Stand tall, look for evidence of proud moments and accomplishments and let that be an acknowledgement of how great you really are. Determine your own measuring stick for success not what everyone else tells you it should be. Create a compelling positive vision of your future and then confidently move forward.

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Do You Need Approval?

"No matter who you are or what you did; there will always be somebody who will not approve of you. So don’t try to live your life trying to please everybody."

As babies we want to get attention, so we smile or laugh and make others laugh back at us. When they don’t give us attention we cry and then for sure we get it.

As we grow older we get a bit more sophisticated–– if we don’t get love, attention, approval or acknowledgement, we break things in the house, or we "accidently" spill milk on the floor, or we forget to take the dog for a walk and voila – the stink and the mess on the carpet gets us a LOT of attention.

Then we do things and we want people to agree with us––to tell us it was accepted, beautiful, that it was OK, and that we are wonderful. There’s nothing wrong with liking to hear compliments or a good word of support. These are all wonderful. But NEEDING praises is a different matter. Looking for approval; needing it to move on… Where does it get us? Whose life are we eventually living? Ours or those whose approval we need?

Therefore to live your life, to be who you are and who you want to be––the only approval you need is from yourself.

Be true to yourself. Don’t wait for others to give you the OK to live or how to live.
You are here! You have already gotten a driver’s license. Don’t wait for others to drive you around; you don’t know where they’ll take you and where you’ll end up.

You be the driver of your own car. Set goals, set targets, get in your car and drive on.
Go to places you want to see, drive fast or slow; don’t stop to ask people whether your driving is acceptable or if your choices are approved. Follow your own heart, follow your passion and those who don’t approve will be just another traffic light on your way to your destination.

Remember! The most successful people in the history never asked permission to follow their quest, never listened to those who disagreed with their path. They kept on going, stepping on a few stones here and there but never lost track of their path and destination.

"So don’t try to live your life trying to please everybody."

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Daily Habits of Successful People | Brian Tracy

Affirmation from Louise Hay

Finding Your Passion

A really good friend of mine is always saying "when you love what you do, you never have to work a day in your life". It’s a mantra and quote that has stuck with me for many years now and words of wisdom I live by and have imparted to my kids and clients alike. The way I see it is you have at least two choices. You find your bliss or passion in a career or hobby and you go for it or you find a way to be passionate about your current career.

Here are some strategies to help you find your passion:

1. Satisfaction Check – Look at each area of your life and determine your level of satisfaction with each area. You should consider your career, finances, health and wellness, relationship with your significant other, family and friends, personal growth and development, physical surroundings, fun and recreation and anything else that is important to you. I like to rate each area on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the highest level of satisfaction (your bliss) and 1 being a low or no level of satisfaction. Then I suggest taking a good hard look at each area to analyze the gap. Determine what would have to happen or change for the gap to be reduced or eliminated. For example: If you rated your career a 7 out of 10. What would make your satisfaction level with your career a 10? Perhaps more clients, less travel time to work, a better relationship with your boss, etc. Once you’ve identified all the items that could make a difference in your level of satisfaction you need to commit to action. Taking even one action will move you one step closer to a higher level of satisfaction in that area of your life.

2. Values Check - Know what’s important to you. Being really clear about your values and what’s most important to you helps you make better decisions more often. Make a list of what’s most important to you in your life right now. Then rank everything on the list from highest priority to lowest priority. Take a really close look at your top 5 values. These are your most important values. How closely aligned are these top 5 values to how you spend your time day to day? What have you been neglecting that’s really important to you? Many successful people put as much time and thought into what they do in their time away from the office as they do in the office. Can you make connections between what you do for a living and what’s important to you? For example: perhaps you have an expensive hobby you are passionate about i.e. race car driving or flying planes. You are in a high paying career that you perhaps don’t love but it provides you with the time and money to race cars or fly planes. Find ways to love your work or at least be grateful for your career as it is providing you with the means to follow your passion of racing cars or flying planes-there is a connection to your values, there is a sense of purpose.

3. Competencies Check – Before leaving my corporate career of 26 years to start my own business, I did some planning and strategizing to determine the type of business I wanted to be in. In the business world it is common to conduct a SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats). Applying this same management tool can be very effective when applied personally. Start with an assessment of your personal strengths and weaknesses. What are you really good at? What aren’t you so good at? Engage others to provide you with feedback in these areas as well. You may be surprised by hidden talents you have taken for granted or haven’t been using. Consider opportunities available to you today to utilize and optimize your strengths. For example: There are careers and businesses in existence today that weren’t around 26 years ago when I first started my professional career. The world is constantly changing and evolving and so are the opportunities. Look for the opportunities or create some new ones. As for threats, it’s important to recognize that they do exist and to plan to minimize or mitigate any risks.

4. Mindset Check – Lastly, it’s important to recognize that no one or one thing can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy!

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Bill Gates's Top 10 Rules For Success (@BillGates)

Shower Meditation

Some people like having a warm shower, while others prefer cold showers. Showering is an interesting process that makes you appreciate the fresh scent of soap and a clean feeling that allows you to feel rejuvenated as you become recharged for the day or night ahead.

When you stand in the shower feeling the water drip all over your body, you are not only cleaning off germs from your body but also dissipating stagnant energy from your body. When water runs down from your head to your back and finally to your feet, it helps to open up your chakras, or energy centers, which help you raise your body vibration and energize your soul. This process can also boost your creativity, as it is commonly said that,"some of greatest insights come to us when we are showering."

Although it is good to take short showers to save water and electricity bills, we are going to look at three meditation exercises that you can perform in a few minutes while taking a shower. These exercises allow you to incorporate spirituality and mindfulness into our daily routine.

The First Shower Meditation
As you apply soap on your body, repeat this mantra - "I clean myself to become light, at ease and at peace." Repeat this mantra several times as you scrub your body. As you start rinsing off the soap, imagine releasing all the negative energy from your body.

Secondly, use your hand to make a flicking motion around your body as a way to cleans any negative energy that is hanging around your body. Lastly, stand still as water passes through your body, close your eyes and picture the water creating a protective layer of golden-white light around your body. Take three deep breaths as you see the white light in your mind's eye. For more mantras or inspiring quotes, see Dr Kim’s words of wisdom in her new book, "Seven Steps to Inner Power" on Barnes and Noble today.

The Second Shower Meditation
Open the shower and stand to face the shower head as the water runs down the back of your neck. This is an important chakra spot known as Cerebellum Chakra. It is a place where your creativity can be unlocked.

As water rashes down your neck, become aware of the sensation and focus on the feeling it brings to you, without shifting our attention to anything else. As this happens, keep your mind quiet and focus on experiencing the feeling in its entirety.

The reason for this is to be aware and become attentive to everything that is happening at that very moment. You can take five deep breaths to help keep your mind still.

The Third Shower Meditation
Repeat the following mantra as you shower, "Thank you; I love life." This mantra releases gratitude as you wash your body and allow yourself to feel the love of self and the love of everything that is happening around you. As you do this, you can even focus on individual body parts that you want to extend your gratitude and feeling of love to.

As you take your time to rinse off the soap from your body, you can close your eyes and position your hands at the heart enter. While water is dripping all over your body, take five deep breaths and allow the feeling of gratitude to radiate from your heart to your body and out through your breath.

As a closing practice to the meditation exercise, you can repeat the same mantra, "Thank you, I love life."

Conclusion
It is easy to think of a lot of things while you are taking a shower, but if you take those few minutes in the shower to meditate and prepare your body for the day ahead, you be able to fully focus on your day’s activities without being distracted.


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Quote from Dr John Demartini

Affirmation - Louise Hay

Do You Need Approval?

"No matter who you are or what you did; there will always be somebody who will not approve of you. So don’t try to live your life trying to please everybody."

As babies we want to get attention, so we smile or laugh and make others laugh back at us. When they don’t give us attention we cry and then for sure we get it.

As we grow older we get a bit more sophisticated–– if we don’t get love, attention, approval or acknowledgement, we break things in the house, or we "accidently" spill milk on the floor, or we forget to take the dog for a walk and voila – the stink and the mess on the carpet gets us a LOT of attention.

Then we do things and we want people to agree with us––to tell us it was accepted, beautiful, that it was OK, and that we are wonderful. There’s nothing wrong with liking to hear compliments or a good word of support. These are all wonderful. But NEEDING praises is a different matter. Looking for approval; needing it to move on… Where does it get us? Whose life are we eventually living? Ours or those whose approval we need?

Therefore to live your life, to be who you are and who you want to be––the only approval you need is from yourself.

Be true to yourself. Don’t wait for others to give you the OK to live or how to live.
You are here! You have already gotten a driver’s license. Don’t wait for others to drive you around; you don’t know where they’ll take you and where you’ll end up.

You be the driver of your own car. Set goals, set targets, get in your car and drive on.
Go to places you want to see, drive fast or slow; don’t stop to ask people whether your driving is acceptable or if your choices are approved. Follow your own heart, follow your passion and those who don’t approve will be just another traffic light on your way to your destination.

Remember! The most successful people in the history never asked permission to follow their quest, never listened to those who disagreed with their path. They kept on going, stepping on a few stones here and there but never lost track of their path and destination.

"So don’t try to live your life trying to please everybody." (excerpt from I Hate to Say Goodbye.)

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Quote from Reid Hoffman

Can We Value Differences When We Can't Be Civil?

I wrote the original version of this article in 2006. Unfortunately, it seems our society has become even more uncivil rather than more civil. Join me in being part of the change.

Have you ever observed or been a part of the following scenarios?

• You are seated at a busy upscale restaurant and the first words from the food server are, "Are you ready to order or do you need time?" It does not occur to the person to say, "Good afternoon," or "Welcome."
• You call tech support when your computer locked up in the middle of an important project. American English is not the tech’s primary language, and you are having difficulty communicating. You lose your temper while explaining the computer problem.
• You are participating in a discussion about immigration, and you are verbally attacked because your opinion differs from the others present.

As these and other similar situations become more common, do you often wonder what really makes people so rude? I was recently asked by a college in Wyoming to deliver a keynote to their faculty and staff during their in-service day. I was asked to tailor my remarks to civility instead of diversity. My first assumption was that they just wanted me to avoid the "D" word. You know, talk about diversity but don’t use the word. Upon further investigation, I discovered the administration was very interested in building and sustaining a learning environment that respects differences of all kinds. After all, an institution of higher learning is the one place where diversity of all types should be encouraged.

The request to focus on civility came about due to the concern that too many people had a "short fuse’ and the leadership wanted to foster a culture where disagreements were valued, not just tolerated. The client supported diversity and wanted its faculty and staff to learn how to disagree agreeably, and model a culture of sincere politeness. With the outbreaks of violence on school campuses, leadership wanted to be proactive. They were not confusing the notion of valuing diversity with civility; rather they believed they needed to focus on civility before addressing issues of diversity that would undoubtedly lead to discussions filled with differing opinions.

So why do otherwise "normal" people become so rude in certain situations? I believe there are at least three reasons:

1. We don’t make the time to connect with others as fellow members of the human race first. The one thing we all have in common is that we are human. We all want to be loved, respected, and safe. We have forgotten to use "common" courtesies as a matter of course. Politeness is not "common" anymore. Our time is so compressed, we shortcut politeness to get to the point. In many ways technology has caused our lives to become more stressful instead of less. Everyone wants everything immediately. Email, voicemail and text messaging can cause misunderstandings. When a problem arises and we need to connect directly with a stranger, we don’t even exchange pleasantries; we go right to the issue at hand. To address this issue, a past client, the Ritz-Carlton Hotels succeeded in embedding courtesy into their culture. Their code is "We are ladies and gentlemen serving ladies and gentleman." All interactions with guests and employees are built upon this premise.

2. We have become rigid in our thinking. Many believe their way is the only right way, thus anyone who sees things differently is immediately wrong. Our unconscious biases cause us to think our viewpoint is truth, rather than just our point of view. Without a conscious attempt to connect on a human level first, many people assume the other person is wrong or ignorant so the resulting exchange is one of intolerance.

3. We live in a society of blame. If you start your day by reading the newspaper or watching TV news, you will see everything wrong with the world, people feeling victimized and searching for someone to blame. This focus then materializes in our behavior with comments such as "It’s not my fault!", "You made me do it!"

Our lives do not have to be this way. We can influence our environment. We are responsible for our own actions. We can be civil toward each other even when we disagree with different points of view. Try the following actions for the next thirty days, and observe the difference in your own interactions. Perhaps they will even become new habits!

1. Before starting any conversation for the first time with your co-workers, service providers or strangers greet them by saying "Good morning," or "Good afternoon."

2. Ask "why do you think that…" before jumping to a conclusion about someone.

3. Watch the news in the evening, instead of starting your day with bad news.

4. Look for reasons to be grateful, and find ways to be kind for no reason.

5. When someone says "thank you" to you, respond with "my pleasure" instead of "no problem."

6. When someone makes a potentially explosive statement, that is not in the form of a question, respond with silence. If you must respond, try this. "Thank you for sharing. I see it this way… because…

7. Create a quiet space for yourself.

8. Take a "cranky" quiz. http://www.whyiseveryonesocranky.com/quizzes/time.htm

There are dozens of things we can do to return to civility. The first step is to follow Nike’s tagline, and "Just do it." To address the needs of the above referenced client, I delivered one of my most popular programs, Turning Barriers into Bridges. As part of the presentation, the group brainstormed dozens of specific ways to bring the ideas to action.

So what does civility have to do with valuing differences? Everything. Valuing differences is much more than being nice to others, but if we cannot slow down long enough to really connect to those different from ourselves, we cannot truly learn ways to understand and respect them.

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Imagination Fuels Imagination

Every invention also leads to the creation of a new knowledge. Knowledge is created to fulfill the necessity of the human beings. How does the necessity or the desire of people get converted to knowledge?"

The answer lies in the ability of human beings to imagine what is beyond the sensory perception- sight, sound, taste, smell and feel.

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution. It is, strictly speaking, a real factor in scientific research." – Albert Einstein

It is through the human imagination that all knowledge has been created. Knowledge can be represented in any form like words, pictures, diagram or audio-visual medium. The knowing of knowledge again triggers imagination as the needs keep on evolving, which again produces fresh knowledge.

As children, we have the most vivid, uninhibited dreams, and at this time we truly were the artists of our life. We invented, laughed deep and some of us even liked to play in dirt, carefree. And there are those who as they grew to an adult, continued to work on their uninhibited dreams, their masterpiece. They chose to follow their own advice rather than the crowd and found their way off the evasive clone carousel. They became the influencers of society, the initiators of knowledge and the creators of what we do or use now, here is an example;

Artist, mathematician and architect, Leonardo da Vinci sketched plans of underwater crafts. This fueled the imagination of author Jules Verne and from this knowledge he created a story, one with a submarine called Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea, long before we traveled underwater.

With his book, Jules Verne fueled the imagination of readers and inventors, advances in technology and human occupied submersible vehicles were created. These submersibles fueled the imagination of author, Tom Clancy, and this led to the invention of his novel, The Hunt For Red October. This novel and others fueled the imagination of screenwriters and directors bringing to us more movies, Tom Clancy’s novel, for example; gave opportunities for actors such as Sean Connery to play in the world of inventions. And the imagination continued to be fueled giving scientists the opportunity to explore the seafloor with remotely operated vehicles.

Thought is imagination and it is the essence for creating our physical existence, at all times. Life outcome is transmitted through imagination by choice and decision. The code and the activator. A single thought is the bar code transmitted to the Universe or "the formless substance – A thinking stuff that forms all things." as Wallace Wattles calls it in his book, "The Science Of Getting Rich.," This transmitted bar code will give evidence of the exact product.

Choice is thought we give our attention to or what we believe to be true, the bar code of the product. If we extend this thought, we have decided to activate this in the thinking stuff (formless substance) and bring to fruition the product (outcome) into our life. It can be joy, a touchable item, a feeling, fear or doubt. Even fear and doubt is a decision. The more we repeat thoughts we make the decision to reinforce specific thought patterns and welcome them into our life results again and again. Good or bad, we get what we decide every time.

Jules Verne repeated his thoughts of underwater travel when he wrote his book. Readers repeated these thoughts when they read it.

In any moment, we can change our thought patterns regardless of how much we have repeated them and relieve ourselves from our restrictive beliefs and decisions. Einstein stated;

"The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once."

Everything cannot happen at once. Choose one pattern, one frequency. To feel healthy instead ill, safe instead of concern, or happy instead of anything you don’t feel great about. All we need do is to decide not analyze how we are feeling, or want to feel, this is only adding resistance if we overthink good or bad.

Or you could imagine…

We are not limited to only thinking about what we desire. Even playing with our imagination, producing ideas of what is not present or has not been experienced will change the frequency transmitted to the formless substance and create patterns that bring into existence knowledge for legacy’s.

Imagination is inherent within all of us. Stir your giant within by finding inspiration; your journey will sprout and cultivate, and imagination will fuel imagination. Wherever the inspiration is found, it matters not, the only important thing is this is the story of your new future, with the greatest potential of a legacy; and will begin the moment you write upon the Universal canvas with your thoughts.

Allow yourself to Imagine. Use this word often. Because it is in this word that a mystery and one of the secrets is hidden.

"Great things are only possible with outrageous requests." – Thea Alexander


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Abraham Hicks - 3 Things To Do Everyday To Manifest Money Abundance!

Affirmation from Louise Hay

Become a Master of Change

When to change? - What to change? - How to change?

For most of us, the thought of change can send us into a panic attack. For some of us, we might fear change because it disrupts our sense of security and consistency by challenging our perceptions. As much as we crave stability and security, change is an inevitable part of life and we can either choose to embrace it or resist it.

From the minute we are born, our body remains in constant change and resisting it only makes it harder to get through it. Resistance to change isn't because we purposely want to go against the grain; we do it because we're fearful of the unknown outcome. We don't know what's on the other side and for no rational reason we resist it, thinking that will help us.

The fear of change comes from the fact that change challenges the perceptions and beliefs that our life is built upon. When change challenges our perceptions, we are forced to step outside our comfort zone, and that's uncomfortable. Additionally, when our perceptions are challenged, so is the ground our life is built upon. We are forced through change, to refine our perceptions and belief systems that we thought were true. Let's face it, when the very perceptions and belief system your life is built on is threatened, it can be uncomfortable. But it can also be very rewarding and exciting.

Change is the inevitable constant refinement of our being. Whether you want it or not, change is inevitable. Inaction and resistance cannot completely stop change; it will only lessen your personal growth and add frustration to your life. You will become stagnant and remain inside the boundaries of a very limited life while everyone and everything grows around you. You aren’t reading this article to stay the same, and I don’t believe we were put on this earth to be stagnant - you want to grow and improve. Wouldn't you like to discover your potential? What about becoming a better person for you, your family, and the world?

Life is really a series of changes and each change is a challenge. It's an opportunity for us to learn - to grow - to expand. Some changes might be small while others may be large, but they each bring the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and the world around you.
With each new lesson you learn from the previous challenge, you become more adept at applying what you've learned to future growth and challenges. Change actually becomes much easier to handle because when you come out the other side, you gain valuable skills and experiences that you can apply to the rest of your life. Instead of being fearful, you may even have fun being more open to change because you know your life will be that much better.

With a constant refinement of perceptions and beliefs, change goes from sending us into a panic attack to being just another task we successfully complete. It goes from being a major incident to a whole new exciting adventure. With every change you make in your life, you become more adept at building solid ground no matter what the situation; and rationally dealing with your fear instead of allowing your perceptions to falsely magnify it. Change becomes fun and exciting, and you learn to actually welcome it.

Here's how you become a master of change:

Inaction and Resistance Carries Bigger Consequences
There's no way out and around it. Choosing inaction or resistance to change carries bigger consequences than choosing to face the change head-on in the first place. You are an ever changing person in an ever changing world and resistance just adds fear and frustration to every situation. Learn to be open to creating new and exciting adventures that change will bring.

Focus on the Desired End Result
Worrying about what might happen will not help you deal with what's at hand. Focus on where you want to be when the change is complete. The mind has an uncanny way of being a goal-achieving machine and will create your reality based on the thoughts you are focused upon. You want to keep your desired end result in mind at all times, and only think about what you want to happen not what you don't want to happen. What got you to where you are today isn’t what will take you where you want to be. Look at your long-range desired results and embark on a new journey to even greater outcomes.

Rationalize Your Fear
Fear is a natural response, but try to identify what it is you are afraid of. Fear is usually the result of our mind creating hypothetical dramas that have no base in reality. If you find yourself fearful of the outcome of an impending change, ask yourself what you're afraid of. There is a solution to everything and when you rationalize your fear, you can see that you are going to be just fine. You can just suck it up, and as Nike says, "Just Do It." Do what you are afraid of doing and reap the benefits. You will quickly discover that the experience of change wasn’t worth all that anxiety over the unknown. Each time you rationalize the fear, you will have greater courage to "Just Do It" in the future.

Break it into Manageable Pieces
For major changes, break it down into smaller manageable pieces. It's much easier to identify a solution when you can apply a strategy to deal with each step. When you know what you're going to do each step of the way, you can get to the end result with confidence and a rational strategy.

Last but not least, celebrate your victories. Each time you felt the fear and did it anyway, you were victorious and reaped the benefits of showing that you are a champion! Little by little you'll learn to trust your abilities more and to handle anything that comes your way. When you rationalize the fear and create successful strategies, you come out a winner on the other side. Look at change as a fun and exciting adventure. Reap the many rewards!

You can resist change, but only temporarily. When you resist the natural flow of the world, which is based on change, your life becomes a series of challenges that are amplified by your resistance. Resist them and you become a victim - embrace them and you become a true master of change.

I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened.
MARK TWAIN
Celebrated American author

"Life and business are like the changing seasons.
You can't change the seasons, but you can change yourself."
- Jim Rohn




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10 inspirational quotes than can improve yourself: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!

It may take a little espresso or most likely a couple rounds of lager or whatever other liquor you could get your hands on with regards to unwinding in the wake of a prolonged day's worth of effort. Indeed, better believe it I'm liable about that one also, unless I'm found dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a couple rounds of vodka… half-bare! Alright, awful case and I apologize to everybody perusing this in the wake of getting bad dreams about me in that condition of smashed daze.

Simply don't ask how it happened, please.

Be that as it may's, truly intriguing that how do individuals experience the standard piece of life when confronted with vein-popping stress? That is to say, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the great things and it really works. Is there space for the scholarly side of individuals who can really enjoy the ambiance in-a-can while moving? It sort of made them believe that there truly should be something in this 'brain over-matter' thing.

Amusingness is for sure the best pharmaceutical there is at whatever point you are. I mean anybody can pay great cash to listen to a humorist just to make you wet your jeans subsequent to chuckling so hard. In spite of what's been going on, and to the individuals who has gone however the difficulty, it's ideal to recently chuckle while confronting the issues with an unmistakable personality than outrage with an obfuscated vision. One of my most loved famous people ever may must be Woody Allen. Presently this is one person who gives you the in-your-face obtuseness that he hauls out with fervor, even without attempting. You can speak pretty much anything with a man, and's will undoubtedly ridicule the subject and you'll wind up snickering as opposed to being vexed about it.

Woody Allen has this to state:

1. "Cash is superior to anything neediness, if just for monetary reasons." It sounds great to me, I mean the common sense for goodness' sake involves cash however it doesn't need to take an exorbitant price to get it.

2. "I accept there is something out there watching us. Sadly, it's the administration." 'Nuff said.

3. "There are more regrettable things in life than death. Have you ever gone through a night with a protection sales representative?" This happens to be one of the great ones. I mean the issue about existence's little issues isn't too awful, until "he" appears.

Indeed, connections can get confounded, or has its confusions that most likely any creator about connections will undoubtedly find it soon. We take after what our heart wants, unless you're discussing the heart as in the heart that pump blood all through your body.

4. "Love is the reply, yet while you're sitting tight for the reply, sex brings up some quite intriguing issues." And in the event that you need all the more, simply continue inquiring!

5. "A quick word about oral contraception. I requested that a young lady go to bed with me, she said 'no'." It sounds, 'functional', I think.

Furthermore, with regards to regular day to day existence, he truly knows how to make the most ideal out of each situation, and it doesn't include a claim in the event that he strikes a nerve.

6. "Fundamentally my better half was youthful. I'd be at home in the shower and she'd come in and sink my water crafts." I never had a pontoon in my bath some time recently. Simply gazing at it while absorbing boiling hot water makes me nauseous as of now.

7. "I am not perplexed of death, I simply would prefer not to be there when it happens." If it downpours, it pours.

8. "I am grateful for giggling, with the exception of when drain leaves my nose." It could deteriorate when you're swallowing on lager… or mouthwash, and it transpired once!

9. "In the event that you need to make God giggle, enlighten him concerning your arrangements." At minimum he doesn't destroy us with lightning, and I'm grateful for that.

Furthermore, regardless of what may happen to every one of us in the following ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I figure we as a whole need to see things in an alternate sort of light and not simply point of view. I can't envision existence with no bit of knowledge that could control us. Whether we're religious or not, it takes more valor to acknowledge your feelings of trepidation and figure out how to manage them is the only thing that is in any way important with regards to even simply getting along.

Also, to entirety things up, here is the last piece of shrewdness to pass by… be that as it may, at whatever point, and wherever we might be.

10. "The ability for being cheerful is acknowledging and enjoying what you have, rather than what you don't have."

Ciao!

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Okay, so you messed up. Now what?

Okay. So you did something wrong. Maybe you made a social blunder; maybe you carried out some task and failed. In short: You messed up.

For people with low confidence, failure can be downright devastating.

I know. Because I used to be ashamed of things I did or said. All the time.

And I’m not talking about calmly realizing one’s wrongdoing and immediately learning from it. I’m talking an involuntary panic-anxiety-attack-like-muscle-spasms-complete-with-grinding-teeth-and-making-noises sorta sensation.

With an inner voice going like: "Screw you! You messed up, and you're useless! You're unable to do anything right, and you should be locked away! You messed up, and that's all you're ever gonna do!"

Every day, several times.

And it doesn’t even have to be something big. It could be a misused word, a social faux pas… anything.

When non-fident people react drastically to making any kind of mistake, it’s because non-fidence is often accompanied by low self-esteem, perfectionism, and insecurity.

When we have low self-esteem, we tend to judge ourselves more vigorously than we would our peers. If we don’t like ourselves, we’re hard on ourselves. Simple as that.

But moreover, if we don’t allow for ourselves to make mistakes, we develop perfectionism. Which, in turn, makes it seem so much worse to us when we do make a mistake. — Or even do something in a manner less than "perfect". (Which, as I’ve written about before, is a BS notion.)

And then there’s the insecurity, which doesn’t allow for much space for mistakes, nor for even trying. This is governed by the amygdala — the reptilian part of our brain — most commonly known for our "fight or flight" mechanism.

See, amongst our primitive ancestors, social identity was way more important than today. Dangers were all around. If you messed up something, it could get you expelled from your tribe and thrown out into the wilderness on your own.

All of this perfectly illustrates the dangerous downward spiral of non-fidence. If we have low regard for ourselves we make less space for ourselves to make mistakes. This, in turn, causes making mistakes to be even more likely, which, then, will only lead to much more self-loathing and shame.

Because we DO make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. We know this perfectly well, yet tend to act like we’re the only flawed person alive.

But here’s the kicker:
Confident people make WAY many more mistakes than less confident people.

The more confident you are, the less regard you give to other people’s opinion about you. The higher you think of yourself, the less you worry about making mistakes. You know perfectly well that your rights outnumber your wrongs. You know perfectly well that you’re able to learn from your mistakes.

Indeed, if you don’t make mistakes, you can never learn. And if you don’t learn, you don’t grow.

In other words:
For every time you messed up something in life, you had the opportunity to learn, grow, and prevent yourself from making the same mistake again.

So get out there and mess up. Badly. Learn, improve, repeat. And as you learn and grow, watch as your confidence grows with you.

ACTION ITEM:

The next time you're embarrassed about something, use the following method:

- Stop what you're doing.
- Breathe. Ten long, deep breaths.
- Think. Realize that whatever negative response on your part are merely thoughts, and that they're not necessarily true, constructive or favourable.
- Choose how you want to feel about what happened. Do you genuinely want to be ashamed? Or would you rather accept, learn, and grow?

The choice is yours.


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Think Your Way to Achievement

Your Mind is the most valuable tool you have when it comes to being successful in life. You can use it to get what you want to Succeed at and is your most powerful asset when used correctly. I am going to show you various tips that will help you in getting the maximum from your life.

Goal setting is the surest way to make sure you attain your life's goals. Having a plan is the start and and from this start you can design you method of thinking to your advantage and discover the way to think your way to your goals.

Your minds most powerful tool is visualization, with the right use of visualization you are able to see your goals fullfilled and what the achievement feels like. To begin the visualization procedure you start by clearly seeing your goals as a vivd picture in your Mind.

With a little practice you will learn how to train your imagination and produce images that are life like, whenever you wish. Since visualization can be challenging, it might be a good idea to start with short practice periods, as invariably your visions and Mind will drift off.

Motivation is also another invaluable tool when it comes to winning in life.Without motivation it will be almost impossible to accomplish your goals. Visualization can be used as a great motivational tool by seeing clearly the changes you want and the advantages and benefits to your life of these changes.

Affirmations can be used either alone or to accompany visualizations. The power of words can be priceless and a very powerful tool to bring you ever closer to your goals and dreams.

Affirmations are positive phrases which when repeated over time will change your way of thinking from a negative to a more positive. The reason that affirmations work so well is that they help generate a positive outlook on life.

A major part of making the above work is belief. Thinking alone is not sufficient to make changes, eventhough it is very helpful. The real secret to having all this work is really believing that visualizations and affirmation will work. Again it's all about positivity and this requires belief. If you have constant doubts and worries about it working, then you are setting the seed of negativity and unfortunately negativity like a weed, grows much quicker.

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Abraham Hicks 10 Minute Morning Meditation To Have A Really Good Day !!

Helping Others to Progress Creates Business Success

If you are in a position of authority then you must be conscientious of two areas: ensuring a quality job (or upholding a directive) and training others to progress in the same field. Essentially, you might be teaching the person who may some day replace you. Is this a fair outlook? This is certainly a common fear among some authority figures that believe instituting such efficient systems could backfire and cause rapid changes in managerial structure. So what are the alternatives? For a leader to actually restrict information from his delegates in hope of securing his job? This would be a poor way of doing business, from a commercial point of view as well as a personal one. Commercially speaking, the company wants to listen to any new input and utilize all available experience. In creating an efficient machine, there would be no reason to deliberately hinder employee advancement as this would directly affect productivity and eventually profit. Personally speaking, it makes sense to train new staff members according to the same criteria that you would live by. When you teach by example and are helpful to new workers, they will remember this training in future years, considering you more of a personal mentor than just a boss. If you go out of your way to be unproductive, you probably won’t be in that position long or if you are self-employed, you won’t be in business long.

The Most Important Factor in Overseeing Progress

The single most important factor in overseeing progress is that of individuality. You cannot assume that delegation or training can be lazily standardized and yet simultaneously help an entire staff progress rapidly. Teaching involves taking an interest in people as individuals. Some people will progress faster than others, others slower, and still others will require special training because their perceptions are totally different from most of the other workers. Some staff will be particularly hard working, convergent thinkers. Others will be very good at "thinking outside the box." The key is to identify the skills of each particular team member and then individually hone those skills until every worker progresses at a comfortable pace. It may also involve you identifying the weaknesses of some workers and coming up with ways to train them into becoming more efficient performers, or give those tasks to someone else who can be or is efficient at those tasks. Leverage people inherent skills.

For example, let’s say you are writing an evaluation of one of your favorite delegates. First, start by focusing on their positive characteristics. You would describe them as a steadfast worker. They always come in a few minutes early and volunteers whenever there is overtime. They are respectful and diligent in customer service. Now focus on some areas where the worker needs improvement. They often make mistakes in their reports. They have a tendency to alienate other co-workers. Some of their proposed ideas are out-of-sync with the rest of the office. Now that you have an understanding of this worker, personalize the training to match their personality and state of progress. Always focus on the positive, remembering that every institution and every staff member could benefit from self-improvement.

Helping Workers with Encouragement and Counsel

When it comes time for training, the ones you teach should be approached respectfully and with an attitude that encourages improvement. A new worker needs to feel confident that you believe he or she can accomplish the task ahead. Once a team member knows that you have this confidence, and that there is a network of information and assistance available, he or she will feel ready. Avoid babying new workers that are looking to advance. A team member will respect you if you tell them what to do, but he or she would much prefer it if you gave them an opportunity to showcase their talents.

What if a delegate that you trusted makes a big mistake? This calls for balance between playing educator and friend. If the worker does something wrong you owe it them and to the company to offer helpful criticism. Do not criticize the effort itself; try to explain why the decision was a mistake and how it negatively affected productivity. If you sense that the team member was pursuing the right direction or had a good intention, which is probably the case with most people, then thank them for it. After praising the effort put forth, make it clear why modifications will be needed. The objective of counseling should be to ensure that the subordinate understands the problem. Next, that he or she is helped back to a confident state and is ready to avoid making the same mistake in the future. One way to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes is creating procedures for everything being taught. Put all procedures in binders or store them electronically to recall when needed. This may take a bit more time up front but saves a ton of time in the short-term and long-term.

Employee training and delegating authority are part of overseeing a company’s progress. It is a golden opportunity to advance your interests while helping others grow into their professional roles. It is a great feeling to see others make progress with your training and mentoring and it makes everyone more effective and efficient which means people are more productive overall and that leads to goal achievement.

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How To Create A Vision Board And Attract Your Goals

Visualization is an important success element in your goal achievement efforts. A very powerful way to apply visualization is by creating a so called "Vision Board", also known as a "Dream Board". It is one of the most powerful ways to put the Law of Attraction to work for you. A Vision Board is a collage of pictures of the goals and dreams you want to attract in your life. Important is to really use the exact image of what you want to attract, as whatever you show on your Board will become part of your reality! So if you want a specific kind of car, make sure it is exactly the type, model and color you desire. I recommend to take some time to create clarity on what it is you are wanting in life. Most people spend more time planning their holidays than their life! So write down on a list what truly makes you happy; this could be something tangible, or something like "more spare time, better life balance" etc. Once you are clear on your goals, it's time to assemble your vision board.

A very basic and fun way of creating a Vision Board is by taking a big piece of carton, scissors, glue and tons of magazines. Go through the magazines and search for images of your dreams, or search for the right images on the internet. Cut out the images and glue them on your cardboard. For more power, add affirmations such as "I love driving my new Porsche" or "I spend lots of quality time with my family". This reinforces what you desire. This exercise is a lot of fun if you do it in a group of people, all sharing their goals and visions for their life. You will enjoy the energy in the room!

Hang your piece of cardboard on a spot where you will see it on a very regular basis, such as at your desk or in the kitchen. Look at it daily, and really FEEL as if you have already achieved the things on your Board. It is precisely this FEELING that will help you to attract your vision into your life. Therefore, make sure to look at your Board as often as possible with focused intent and the make sure to take inspired action. Respond to nudges, suggestion you may get that could bring you closer to your vision. Once you do so, you will be happily surprised to see the things on your Vision Board show up in your life - sooner or later - providing you keep putting your intention on them and you stay positive and inspired.

By looking at your Vision Board on a consistent (daily) basis, you will manifest the life you truly desire and absolutely deserve! Enjoy!



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